It's been awfully long since I wrote on my blog...and I've been missing it a lot. 2007 just whizzed by which normally means a lot of fun time. Being married is a big change in life - one has to share one's life with a spouse. No matter how much love there is in between the two, it is an upward climb easing itself as you take it on steadily.
In our culture, marriages are not just between individuals - it involves the association and mingling of the families the individuals come from. So it's a grander and slightly complicated affair. And trust me, no matter who you are, what you do for a living and how good your bank balance looks, you really can't be prepared for this (may be the bank balance can get you off the hook a few times by bribing troublesome relatives/in-laws). It is an interesting experience where love and patience have to be harvested to reap the crop of affection and respect as time goes by (although I'm still an amateur).
Personally, if you are good at math you can solve the puzzle of marriage easily. I say this because at any time, it is always a question of priorities. If this is comprehended, there cannot be many hurdles in this relationship. The other key thing is being truthful to yourself and your spouse.
Family is a great thing and it is easy to understand why, when you have your own. It is a huge responsibility nonetheless but I honestly think it is worth the time and effort! What is life without someone to love and a whole group of people to have a good time?
Stay tuned...
About Me
- incognitix
- I see nature in various forms and each time it looks different from the multitude of variations I have seen before. It is a whole new view, an interesting panorama of life around us.
April 01, 2008
March 03, 2007
A fantastic journey home
It's an inexplicable feeling to be back home, meet family after spending time away - working, socializing with friends and handling the daily do's. The love of home is what makes the heart warm (it probably reaches the soul)...the beaming faces of parents and relatives who care for you, their loving enquiries and the way they go about caring for you like you are a kid...no matter how old you are, it really doesn't change...does it?
Jet-lag never sets in despite the 15 hour difference in my home country time from the US. I attribute it to the splendid way of things happening: my dad waking me up and wishing me 'Good Morning', my mom is already cooking so we can have brunch and get started on catching up. I started to relax and take in the spirit of my home...what a great way to begin a vacation. After a day or 2 of family time, relatives and friends call in to chat up. It's worth anything planning to meet up with friends from college, hang out at a shopping mall talking about memorable stories that will make better hits than Bollywood movies, get some south indian chat/dinner in one of our fave restaurants and catching on a movie if time permits. Time really flies and there's more things to do than can be done...shopping always tops my list ;) .
For the most part, visiting my native place is always on the to-do's in my trip. It's a village in Tanjore district, south of Chennai and enriches my love for nature every single time I go there. The small sit-out before entering the house is a camping place for all my cousins and me. We love playing cards, taking a walk down the street (a narrow foot path sided with shrubs and thorny bushes all the way through), investigating the cattle each home has, also manage to capture few pictures of flowers, ponds filled with lillies, some flies too, and eventually are summoned to get into bed so we can get up early for a day of temple visits. The next morning, the house is busy with elders running around preparing for the day. The smoke from the water boiler signals water being ready to shower and freshen up. Off we go and get dressed in a jiffy. It's an occasion to show off our traditional clothing which is not suitable for the metro life in Chennai. The temple visits are fervently completed by early afternoon and we are all starving to eat lunch...cooked in an earthen stove. Wow...the taste is amazing...so healthy and an aroma of freshness. A nap usually follows lunch (such good food). Then it's coffee time...the cows tied across the house in a small shelter are milked and unbelievable is the smell and richness of coffee thus made. After an evening of catching up on the local news and affairs, the day almost gets to a close with a splendid traditional south Indian dinner. After spending a few days in this fashion, we are all caught up on the idea of staying on when our parents start packing. That's the killer...we have to return to the hustle bustle of the city. The memories of each trip are good to carry on till the next one.
There is definitely something about the earth of one's homeland. You can appreciate and be astonished by the many foreign countries you live in or visit...but nothing can equal the happiness that warms the whole being when visiting one's home country.
Jet-lag never sets in despite the 15 hour difference in my home country time from the US. I attribute it to the splendid way of things happening: my dad waking me up and wishing me 'Good Morning', my mom is already cooking so we can have brunch and get started on catching up. I started to relax and take in the spirit of my home...what a great way to begin a vacation. After a day or 2 of family time, relatives and friends call in to chat up. It's worth anything planning to meet up with friends from college, hang out at a shopping mall talking about memorable stories that will make better hits than Bollywood movies, get some south indian chat/dinner in one of our fave restaurants and catching on a movie if time permits. Time really flies and there's more things to do than can be done...shopping always tops my list ;) .
For the most part, visiting my native place is always on the to-do's in my trip. It's a village in Tanjore district, south of Chennai and enriches my love for nature every single time I go there. The small sit-out before entering the house is a camping place for all my cousins and me. We love playing cards, taking a walk down the street (a narrow foot path sided with shrubs and thorny bushes all the way through), investigating the cattle each home has, also manage to capture few pictures of flowers, ponds filled with lillies, some flies too, and eventually are summoned to get into bed so we can get up early for a day of temple visits. The next morning, the house is busy with elders running around preparing for the day. The smoke from the water boiler signals water being ready to shower and freshen up. Off we go and get dressed in a jiffy. It's an occasion to show off our traditional clothing which is not suitable for the metro life in Chennai. The temple visits are fervently completed by early afternoon and we are all starving to eat lunch...cooked in an earthen stove. Wow...the taste is amazing...so healthy and an aroma of freshness. A nap usually follows lunch (such good food). Then it's coffee time...the cows tied across the house in a small shelter are milked and unbelievable is the smell and richness of coffee thus made. After an evening of catching up on the local news and affairs, the day almost gets to a close with a splendid traditional south Indian dinner. After spending a few days in this fashion, we are all caught up on the idea of staying on when our parents start packing. That's the killer...we have to return to the hustle bustle of the city. The memories of each trip are good to carry on till the next one.
There is definitely something about the earth of one's homeland. You can appreciate and be astonished by the many foreign countries you live in or visit...but nothing can equal the happiness that warms the whole being when visiting one's home country.
December 24, 2006
2006 - It's been a great year !
I'm back to blogging after a break...life has treated me very well these past few months...but I missed writing too much that I'm sitting up at 3:05 AM on a Sunday morning writing this piece !
The year started off with me spending time back home among family fantastically. A lot many improvements in my career and a special touch to my personal life...guess what??? Yes, I'm getting hitched. Call me fantasizing, but I've always believed in "A special person is out there for me". It's a feeling of a dream come true !
With an approaching wedding and a few deadlines in a new job, you can't imagine how life can be. There is a long list of things-to-be-done-and-best-done-with-less-folks-around. It's been fun performing at work and going shopping for a wedding in the evenings/weekends. To top it all, I have had a few people ask me if I'm getting cold feet. Not that it's a silly inquiry, but where is the question of uncertainty when you are sure of what you are doing. The very thought of a reply brings up my fiancee's face and I just smile to myself. We are a strange combination ~ quite the opposites really...excluding the principle of magnetism, this is where I understood what they mean by opposites attract.
So much said, I'm eagerly looking forward to the New Year's and my upcoming home going...not to forget the very special occasion of our wedding !
Wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Fabulous New Year !!!
The year started off with me spending time back home among family fantastically. A lot many improvements in my career and a special touch to my personal life...guess what??? Yes, I'm getting hitched. Call me fantasizing, but I've always believed in "A special person is out there for me". It's a feeling of a dream come true !
With an approaching wedding and a few deadlines in a new job, you can't imagine how life can be. There is a long list of things-to-be-done-and-best-done-with-less-folks-around. It's been fun performing at work and going shopping for a wedding in the evenings/weekends. To top it all, I have had a few people ask me if I'm getting cold feet. Not that it's a silly inquiry, but where is the question of uncertainty when you are sure of what you are doing. The very thought of a reply brings up my fiancee's face and I just smile to myself. We are a strange combination ~ quite the opposites really...excluding the principle of magnetism, this is where I understood what they mean by opposites attract.
So much said, I'm eagerly looking forward to the New Year's and my upcoming home going...not to forget the very special occasion of our wedding !
Wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Fabulous New Year !!!
October 22, 2006
Festival of lights
Deepavali ~ This word is a compound of two words 'Deepa' and 'Avali' in Sanskrit. Deepa means light and Avali means row. Thus the literal meaning of the word is 'row of lights'. The festival of lights symbolises the victory of good over evil, and lamps are lit as a sign of celebration and hope for mankind.
The most significant esoteric meaning is "the awareness of the inner light". The heart of Hindu philosophy, is the assertion that there is something beyond the physical body and mind which is pure, infinite, and eternal, called the Atman. Just as we celebrate the birth of our physical being, Deepavali is the celebration of this Inner Light, in particular the knowing of which outshines all darkness (removes all obstacles and dispels all ignorance), awakening the individual to one's true nature, not as the body, but as the unchanging, infinite, immanent and transcendent reality. With the realization of the Atman, comes universal compassion, love, and the awareness of the oneness of all things (higher knowledge). This brings Anandha (Inner Joy or Peace).
Deepavali celebrations include fireworks, lights, flowers, sharing sweets and worship. While the story behind Deepavali varies, the essence is the same - to rejoice in the Inner Light (Atman) or the underlying reality of all things (Brahman).
Wish you a very Happy and Prosperous Deepavali !
The most significant esoteric meaning is "the awareness of the inner light". The heart of Hindu philosophy, is the assertion that there is something beyond the physical body and mind which is pure, infinite, and eternal, called the Atman. Just as we celebrate the birth of our physical being, Deepavali is the celebration of this Inner Light, in particular the knowing of which outshines all darkness (removes all obstacles and dispels all ignorance), awakening the individual to one's true nature, not as the body, but as the unchanging, infinite, immanent and transcendent reality. With the realization of the Atman, comes universal compassion, love, and the awareness of the oneness of all things (higher knowledge). This brings Anandha (Inner Joy or Peace).
Deepavali celebrations include fireworks, lights, flowers, sharing sweets and worship. While the story behind Deepavali varies, the essence is the same - to rejoice in the Inner Light (Atman) or the underlying reality of all things (Brahman).
Wish you a very Happy and Prosperous Deepavali !
October 15, 2006
Friendship ~ a treasure for life
There are a handful of relationships where we get to make a decision. Friendship is one of them. We meet many people in our day-to-day life: at work, in school or in the neighborhood. Few individuals leave an impression. More often than not, friendships start off with a good feeling about a person that remains for long in our memory amidst a fast paced life. I believe every individual is unique. What really takes me by surprise is the way people interact and complement each other. I know a few friends who can read me inside out. I've always been grateful for their presence in my life. What a relief it is when there is no need to word each emotion you feel whether you are excited, anxious, confused or frustrated.
It's a privilege indeed to be understood by someone you care and love. To me, it's a priceless treasure !
'Friends are the siblings God never gave us' - Unknown
This post is a dedication to my wonderful friends who have been there for me always and love me just as I am.
It's a privilege indeed to be understood by someone you care and love. To me, it's a priceless treasure !
'Friends are the siblings God never gave us' - Unknown
This post is a dedication to my wonderful friends who have been there for me always and love me just as I am.
October 07, 2006
Good Night, Sleep Tight !
There a many many greetings people say often. For eg. Good Day To You, Have a Great Afternoon, Nice To See You, etc., It generally gives you an upbeat feeling if things haven't been going so well or a little more enthusiasm when everything is working out just fine. Recently I came across a piece of interesting information.
In Shakespeare's time, mattresses were secured on bed frames by ropes. When you pulled on the ropes, the mattress tightened, making the bed firmer to sleep on. That's where the phrase "Goodnight, sleep tight" comes from.
So no longer in the modern days of futons and innerspring mattresses resting on bed frames, "Goodnight, sleep tight" doesn't make sense...so have a Goodnight !
In Shakespeare's time, mattresses were secured on bed frames by ropes. When you pulled on the ropes, the mattress tightened, making the bed firmer to sleep on. That's where the phrase "Goodnight, sleep tight" comes from.
So no longer in the modern days of futons and innerspring mattresses resting on bed frames, "Goodnight, sleep tight" doesn't make sense...so have a Goodnight !
September 29, 2006
Am I the only one ?
CHANGE - it comes as an inevitable part of life so long as we live. We evolved from a warm little bundle of joy into crawling little beings, then onto school going naughty kids, learning discipline and values to shape up as respectable human beings. This is not the end of it. Every day we face this phenomenon - at work, in the family, with friends and others...in our lives.
How do we take it ?
Not all open their arms to transition and transformation. Some go through it with cheer and expectation. And others with reluctance and hesitation. But the fabulous thing about it is we are fine and much better than what we used to be after we are done with this phase.
Makes me wonder why ?
How do we take it ?
Not all open their arms to transition and transformation. Some go through it with cheer and expectation. And others with reluctance and hesitation. But the fabulous thing about it is we are fine and much better than what we used to be after we are done with this phase.
Makes me wonder why ?
August 17, 2006
Freedom - a delightful feeling !
F.R.E.E.D.O.M
What does this word really mean?
People generally come up with different views on freedom based on where they presume a lack of it and/or circumstances where they are deprived of it most. When this ecstatic thing is bestowed upon us, how many use it with sound judgment and rationality? I can hardly answer that question truthfully. There are times when I have argued to the end of time with my mom and rallied at home over having freedom to do things of my own. Of course, looking back I should say I did have a lot of independence to do what I wished. Yet in the end, happiness is not always the outcome. Those incidents made me think why I was not as happy as I wanted to be...the answer was quite surprising. I wished for what was not really my wanting at the time. Good realization, now I think. It was more like Mark has it, Janu has it, so I'll have it as well.
I'm sure all of us have the fantastic ability to think well and make a decision, so let's shoot for what we want and not what we think we want.
Enjoy living :)
What does this word really mean?
People generally come up with different views on freedom based on where they presume a lack of it and/or circumstances where they are deprived of it most. When this ecstatic thing is bestowed upon us, how many use it with sound judgment and rationality? I can hardly answer that question truthfully. There are times when I have argued to the end of time with my mom and rallied at home over having freedom to do things of my own. Of course, looking back I should say I did have a lot of independence to do what I wished. Yet in the end, happiness is not always the outcome. Those incidents made me think why I was not as happy as I wanted to be...the answer was quite surprising. I wished for what was not really my wanting at the time. Good realization, now I think. It was more like Mark has it, Janu has it, so I'll have it as well.
I'm sure all of us have the fantastic ability to think well and make a decision, so let's shoot for what we want and not what we think we want.
Enjoy living :)
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